Behind a personality, there are factors, which made it so. A different perception on a single object shows how a thought from an individual to other varies. Psychologists believe that early age of human play a major role in personality development and it is how a child learns from the environment. Children always copy their parents and try to behave like them. If parents are reacting on small things this in turns effects their children and this habit begins to develop in their child and similarly if parents are doing injustice with their kids then it is obvious that these kids will never do justice with others when mature. I observed that lack of love from parents produce in children less tolerant and violent behavior however criticizing and torture acts produces less confident & emotional disturb personalities. Children mostly do not learn from what you teach them but by your behavior with them or other persons as they observe you.
It is clear that even a minor irresponsible and non-ethical attitude from parents produces negative effects in children. It was interesting to me that children starts telling lies if you react badly when they tell you truth because it alternate and keeps you happy. I believe that instead to react we should hear them and keep calm on it because whatever it is but is true.
If you show your child respect, love, ethical attitude, harmony and tolerance by doing so then your child must reflect your image. If during development, you do not care in providing your child proper and balanced environment, your child will show its effects in forms of different emotions and habits. There are many other factors, which influence in making of any personality like childhood environment, trait from ancestor genes, and behavior of parents or guardians but providing these is up to you. It is in your own hands how you develop a personality of infant. Instead, to teach you need to shows a positive attitude practically in order to make a difference.
Written by Muhammad Adnan
Pharm-D,
University of Karachi.