"Until you make peace with who you are, you"ll never be content with what you have." - Doris Mortman
I first read this quote in Sarah Ban Breathnach"s wonderful book, "Simple Abundance." Quite frankly, I don"t know who Doris Mortman is, but I think she is really on to something. And to elaborate on a point, we could even expand her quote by adding,"...you"ll never be content with what you have..." and who you love.
One of the concepts that I had difficulty processing in learning about the Law of Attraction is that if "like attracts like," then in so many relationships why does it appear that "opposites attract"? The irony is that even in those cases one party, or both, are attracting what he or she is focusing on in his or her own life. In other words, the shy woman who wishes that she were more outspoken, attracts a mate who is outspoken; or the man who wishes he was more giving attracts someone who is a giving machine. The problem is, often times the attractor stays the same, still longing for a change, wishing for the desired qualities.
Mahatma Gandhi said, "Be the change you want to see." If you really take Gandhi"s words to heart, you will realize that You are the power. You alone are the driving force in your life. It"s not necessary to look outside of yourself, intentionally or unintentionally, for what you want to be, do, have or achieve. And if that makes you uncomfortable, listen to this: You Are Perfect Just As You Are! You don"t have to lose 30 pounds, get a graduate degree, buy a nicer home, make more money, get a promotion, or whatever. You are what you are now and that is just fine. Really, better than fine--it"s GREAT! Love yourself; embrace yourself for what you are now, in this moment.
Now, if you choose to make changes in your life, go ahead, change away. But love yourself along the way. If you want to lose 30 pounds, don"t look at your body and hate the way you look. Find something to appreciate about yourself just the way you are and focus on that. What is your best feature? Beautiful eyes, a warm smile, great legs or a tiny waist? Give thanks for what you are right now, and from that appreciative place take inspired action and be the change you want to see. Eat healthier, exercise, drink more water to nourish and honor your body, and love the skin you"re in!
Use this method for anything that you choose to change in your life. The bonus prize is that when you love yourself unconditionally, you will not put conditions on the people you love. "Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all," advises lyricists Linda Creed and Michael Masser. Your happiness will not depend on your loved ones acting in a certain way; your happiness will depend on you!